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Another Chance – by Ardhan Swatridge

A new poem by Ardhan (Paul) Swatridge – October 2019 We learned so much: How not to trust, how not to feel and if we did, to hide our fear our loneliness, our inner truth, at any cost. The rules … Continue reading

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The Unlearning – by George Monbiot.

Boarding school, a peculiarly British form of abuse, has devastating impacts not only on the boarders, but on those they grow up to dominate. By George Monbiot, published in the Guardian 7th November 2019 There are two stark facts about … Continue reading

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A left-handed Shame Attack

From her seat next to her husband, the headmaster’s wife called my name, following it with a rhetorical question, designed to shame me: Continue reading

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Teenage Trauma of a pretty ‘Bum Boy’.

It has taken me fifty years to reach a point in my life where I feel ready to talk openly about some of my teenage boarding school experiences. Since my late thirties I have tried to address the most painful … Continue reading

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Sexual Abuse & Trauma relived – Part two

My defences against verbal abuse are strong; walled-off and defended after years of boarding school life, away from the relative safety and protection of family and home. I am numbed, emotionally starved, often lonely and miserable, having been relentlessly taunted … Continue reading

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Sexual Abuse & Trauma relived – the first of a two-part account

I am settling down in bed, adjusting to the dark, relaxing after my day, and dropping into the beginnings of sleep. Suddenly I hear movement around me as 6 or 8 male figures loom over me, surrounding my bed. I … Continue reading

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Surviving Boarding School – part 2

School cricket team. I am 4th from the left at the back, age 10 or 11. I was eight when I arrived at Boarding School (see my article describing this, dated March 2015). At some point in those early days, … Continue reading

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